January 03, 2011

So you didn't get an invitation...

I have 3 words for you... Get Over Yourself!

I can not begin to tell you how many brides have told me that one of their biggest sources of stress is deciding who to invite to their wedding and still afford to live after the wedding. While they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, the truth is simply that they may not be able to afford to accomodate everyone they know or have ever known during their lives.

In cases where the bride and groom are sharing the cost of the wedding with both sets of parents, they may also have to split the guest list 4 ways. To put it in more basic terms, if they are planning a wedding for 100 guests, the bride can only invite 25 people, the groom 25, the parents of the bride 25, and the parents of the groom can only invite 25.

The next thing to consider is how many of these 25 are coming as couples. That greatly reduces the number of invitations actually being sent.

Guess what else... the total guest count includes both sets of parents and the bridal party plus their significant others.

So it's not that complicated. It's not that you aren't important enough to be invited. Please be more considerate and think about what I've said before you start laying guilt trips on the bride (or her groom, her parents, or his parents).

**Stepping down off my soap box now**