March 08, 2009

How to Plan Your Wedding Without Losing Your Mind

1. Give yourself enough time to get what you really want.

  • How many times have you rushed to the mall to buy an outfit at the last minute? You probably got frustrated and annoyed when you weren't able to find exactly what you pictured in your mind. You probably ended up buying something you really didn't like or want. Is that what you want for your wedding?
  • Get the big jobs taken care of first. Figure out how many guests you want to attend before you look for a venue. Find your venue before you buy your dress. Hire your most important wedding pros (photo, video, music, florist, etc.) early.

2. Seek professional help.

  • Hire a wedding planner to help narrow down the options. A professional wedding planner can match high-quality vendors to your budget (a huge timesaver for you).
  • If the cost of wedding planning services is a concern, ask about packages and different levels of service.
  • Even if you hire a wedding planner, you are still an active participant in the planning process. Make sure you describe your vision clearly so you can be on the same page.

3. Keep good records.

  • Buy a purse-sized notebook and carry it with you at all times. This notebook should include details such as the addresses and phone numbers for your venues, the name of the flowers you fell in love with as you skimmed thru a magazine in line at the supermarket, etc. (You never know when or where you will be inspired.) You should also use this notebook to jot down items to remember from vendor appointments such as prices and service options.
  • At home, keep a portable file box or large binder handy for all of your magazine clippings, receipts, and contracts.

4. If you need help, ask for it.

  • Repeat after me "I am not Superwoman!"
  • Sometimes, you may need a friend's opinion or an extra set of hands.
  • Delegate some of your tasks to your bridal party.
  • Be nice... not a horrific Bridezilla.
  • While your at it, assign a few tasks to the groom too. After all, it is his wedding too.

5. Take some nights and weekends off from planning your wedding to enjoy being engaged.